You may have heard that women are blessed with the ability to have multiple orgasms. While this is true of many women, what you probably haven’t heard is that men are just as capable of experiencing multiple orgasms, if they can only learn how.
Before you dive into the world of multiple orgasms it might help to know exactly what they are defined as. Multiple orgasms occur in succession without complete loss of sexual arousal in between them. For women, this means resuming sexual stimulation shortly after a first orgasmic climax, usually immediately or within a few minutes, so that a second climax may be reached. If the woman does indeed experience further climaxes during the same sexual encounter, she is said to be multi-orgasmic. Men have often mistakenly believed that being able to regain their erection as soon as possible after ejaculation and reach another climax within some arbitrary period of time qualifies as being multi-orgasmic. This is false because the true multi-orgasmic male does not lose his erection between orgasms. As you will see below, multiple male orgasms include only orgasm and not ejaculation, with the possible exception of ejaculation accompanying the final orgasm in a multi-orgasmic experience.
Of course, the concept of being a multi-orgasmic male is not new at all. In fact, Taoists (pronounced DOW-ists) have known about this and many other profound sexual concepts and practices for over three thousand years. Many of these amazing sexual secrets remain relatively unknown even now in the age of sexual awareness and liberation. And this despite the fact that during the 1940s and 1950s several sex researchers in the West studied and confirmed the ability of males to experience multiple orgasms. Perhaps this stems from a Western world that has generally frowned upon open sexuality until just very recently. Even now, the amount of sexual ignorance, misdirection, and confusion engulfing our society is astonishing. It is my hope that by reading this guide, you will be able to greatly increase your sexual awareness and pleasure.
With the practices and techniques you will learn in this guide, there’s a good chance you will discover and experience one of the biggest sexual secrets your body has kept hidden from you for way too long- your ability to experience multiple orgasms. See the diagram below for an average depiction of the various stages of arousal during a single sexual encounter
These charts assume that sexual stimulation is continuous, whether through masturbation or intercourse. The chart on the right represents a male sexual encounter in which he has three orgasms- having just two or even having more than three is certainly possible. The baseline is a representation of normal everyday activity that is not sexually arousing- which means simply not being horny or sexually aroused. Naturally, within a minute or two of beginning sexual stimulation, arousal gradually builds up, slower or faster depending on how long it has been since your last sexual encounter and how fast you are taking the stimulation, among other factors. The plateau stage is represented roughly as a heightened stage of arousal that will eventually lead right into orgasm if stimulation continues. You should also understand that the arousal stages represented here do not have sharp boundaries- they blend rather smoothly into one another.
Notice how the two charts differ. In a typical singular orgasm including ejaculation, the plateau phase is reached and passed by fairly quickly as the orgasm subsides and ejaculation has occurred. However, during a multiple orgasm encounter, the plateau phase is reached and sustained after the initial orgasm and between the next orgasm. The successive orgasms are also slightly stronger than the previous ones, until the man decides to ejaculate with the final orgasm he decides to have during the encounter. Of course, ejaculation may be optional for you. You could have several orgasms and decide not to ejaculate at all, in which case you might find yourself feeling completely satisfied, if your PC muscle and your personal level of sexual awareness of your arousal level permits. In this case, the arousal pattern closely follows that of women and gradually declines over about an hour’s time instead of declining very sharply after ejaculation.
Understanding how this is possible
The first question on your mind right now is probably, “How the hell is this even possible?” Well, first you should understand that the male and female sexual response cycles are strikingly similar. The primary difference between the two is male ejaculation. Multi-orgasmic women are able to have successive orgasms if stimulation is resumed shortly after the first orgasm because they do not ejaculate. It is reported that some women are able to ejaculate, however this obviously differs somewhat from male ejaculation, and this topic is beyond the scope of this guide.
Ejaculation is the aspect of male sexuality that causes the refractory period. This is the period of time right after the male ejaculates. During this time, most men are unable to get another erection or even receive further stimulation because the sexual tension is gone and the penis is usually much too sensitive. Since women are not biologically programmed to ejaculate, they usually do not have this annoying feature and are able to learn about and achieve multiple orgasms much easier than men.
The first key to understanding how men can have multiple orgasms is to understand that orgasm and ejaculation are distinct events that you can learn to distinguish and separate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and ejaculation as one in the same because they happen in such rapid succession, orgasm slightly before and then tapering off during ejaculation. Remember when you had your first few orgasms as a sexually maturing adolescent? Most boys think having a singular orgasm is the most spectacular feeling the human body can provide. If only you had known about the possibility for multiple orgasms!
The second key to navigating your way through the path to multiple orgasms is figuring out just exactly how to separate orgasm and ejaculation. This involves the sexual miracle muscle, the pubococcygeal muscle, or pelvic floor muscle, or “PC muscle” as it is commonly known. If you don’t know what this muscle is or what it does, next time you have to pee, stop the flow mid-stream. The muscle that stopped it is your PC muscle. If stopping the flow is difficult, then you have a weak PC muscle and you will need to work on strengthening it before you’ll be able to have multiple orgasms. Do not confuse squeezing your PC muscle with forcing it to relax. If you squeeze or contract it, you should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being drawn upward, rather than being pushed downward as if you were having a bowel movement. See the diagram below for the location of this muscle.
Obviously this is a diagram of a female, however the PC muscle and all other non-genital muscles depicted here are the same in the male. Just substitute a penis for the vulva shown, and presto. The entire area highlighted in red represents the PC muscle, which is partially hidden in the picture and circles the anus, genitals, and perineum.
Surely you weren’t just expecting to sit down one day and start having multiple orgasms by accident! Having multiple orgasms as a male is pretty remarkable, but it will take a great deal of preparation. As mentioned earlier, one of the first steps you need to take is to discover your PC muscle if you already haven’t. You need to become intimately familiar with this muscle so that you can learn to control it very precisely. Some of this control will come with experience, but most will come by strengthening it through regular exercise. Once you have discovered where it is and what it feels like while urinating you can exercise it anywhere, anytime, and unless you’re acting obvious no one around you will even know.
It is probably best if you experiment with becoming multi-orgasmic on your own at first, however you are free to learn while making love with your wife, girlfriend, etc. This guide assumes you will be masturbating. Go get comfortable, and start masturbating as you always would. Stop just before you reach the point of no return (the point where you would ejaculate). At this point, contract (squeeze) and hold your PC muscle for a count of ten. Let yourself relax now, and take a 10 minute break. Start masturbating again, this time bringing yourself just a bit closer to the point of no return, again contracting your PC muscle. Continue doing this, paying very special attention to your own state of arousal and emotional feelings. The key here is to learn more about your own sexual response so that down the road you’ll be more in control of it.
The million dollar moment
Once you’ve brought yourself to the point of no return several times, you’re probably ready to let it rip. The bad news is all that jacking off you’re doing right now is just for preparation and self-discovery. The good news is once you learn how to become multi-orgasmic, you won’t have to go through all this preparation because you’ll already know what you’re doing. Okay, enough excuses. Continue masturbating, except this time, keep going until you reach orgasm. Right as you orgasm you should notice several contractions that signal the beginning of ejaculation in the base of your penis and perhaps deeper inside of your nether regions. Right as these contractions begin or preferably just before, but during the orgasm, stop stimulation (this means stop masturbating and let go of your penis completely) and squeeze that PC muscle tight and hold it there as if your life depends on it. You’ll probably feel yourself trying to ejaculate, but hold it back. Squeezing your PC muscle effectively shuts off your ejaculation, if you are successful, and erases the refractory period.
Some semen may come out, even if you are successful, but it should not shoot out with the force it normally would during an unrestrained singular orgasm. If you were able to hold off ejaculating after your orgasm, start masturbating again now. It should feel like you’re still very aroused and not like you just ejaculated. You should be able to continue for a short time until you have another orgasm. If this is your first time, let yourself ejaculate this time- hell, even Rome wasn’t built in a day.
If you were unable to keep from ejaculating the first time, either your PC muscle isn’t strong enough yet or you squeezed it at the wrong time. If you begin squeezing too late after the ejaculatory contractions have already begun, it is nearly impossible to shut them off completely. With practice you will learn the timing. If you just had your first multiple orgasms, feel free to celebrate in any way you see fit, you deserve it! If you were successful, next time you masturbate see how many orgasms you can have. If you manage to have three of four and get upset that you can’t have more, remember how many you were having before you read this guide!
There are many possible techniques you can use to greatly increase your success in becoming multi-orgasmic. Perhaps the greatest technique you can practice is to share your experiences in becoming a multi-orgasmic man with your romantic partner. If you are eventually successful, this can be a wonderful opportunity for you to significantly increase the pleasure you both receive during lovemaking. Or, if you prefer, you can surprise them with your new-found ability. How you choose to handle what you learn here, however, is entirely up to you.
The technique for a first attempt to have multiple orgasms presented below is one of my own creation, however it has many subtle influences from a wide variety of sources. Feel free to experiment!
1. The first thing you’ll need is plenty of time on your hands. Literally. If you’ll be masturbating instead of making love with a partner, make sure you’ll have plenty of privacy, in a quiet and preferably familiar environment such as your own bedroom or house. In other words, you probably shouldn’t slip into the bathroom at work and have at yourself during your coffee break.
2. Relaxing very deeply should be your second goal. Do some mild aerobic exercises such as sit-ups and jumping jacks to get your blood flowing, but don’t overdo yourself. After a few minutes, sit or lay down in a very comfortable place such as a bed, couch, or the floor if you prefer. Place your hands on your stomach and take several long deep breaths, exhaling completely with each breath. Try to picture the invisible energy flowing in a circular pattern throughout your body as it builds.
3. When you feel completely relaxed, find your stimulus. This can be erotic pictures of sexy women dressed in lacy panties, pornographic movies, erotic text from a favorite book, or even a mental image or fantasy. Chances are you know what it takes to get your gears working, so use that. Take the time to really feel yourself becoming aroused and focus that energy into your genital area.
4. Once you are thoroughly aroused before masturbating, don’t start choking Mr. Spanky just yet. Gently stroke or touch yourself. This should be in secondary sexual places such as your stomach, chest, shoulders, nipples, ears, mouth, forehead, and even across your pubic hair or thighs. If this feels unnatural or seems silly to you, remember that becoming multi-orgasmic might require a higher level of sensuality and sexual awareness than you are used to. Use this opportunity to further arouse yourself.
5. Now is the time to begin masturbating. From this point, take things as you normally would, building up to climax, but don’t take it all the way just yet. Build up your arousal just to the point of no return, and then take a short break. Relax, take some more deep breaths, and then begin masturbating again.
6. This time, bring yourself to climax, but use what you’ve learned in this guide to your full advantage! Squeeze your PC muscle as the orgasm begins and focus on both the pleasure your body is providing yourself but also in stopping yourself from ejaculating.
7. From here, with the knowledge you’ve gained from this guide and about yourself, you are free to take your experiences however you wish. You could easily adapt these techniques to experience multiple orgasms with your sexual partner if you have one, and by all means discuss your feelings and discoveries with them. You’ve probably heard it a thousand times, but communication is the foundation of any relationship!